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I do this on purpose. The other night we were watching a movie and she said she was going to get up and have some popcorn. I stopped her and said that she needed to choose: having popcorn or having me that night. She pouted and seemed really upset but came and sat back down.

About ten minutes later, she went to the kitchen and came back with some cheese puffs and ate those instead. How do I punish her? It walks a dangerous line of sexual assault. A good Dom knows the difference. A bad one gives this entire lifestyle a bad name. Where and how did you learn how to properly use implements? Since your sub has more experience: does she sometimes teach you?

Great question. For the most part, I did a lot of researching via YouTube and trusted Dominants in my life. Google also helped a lot as well, though it was crucial tumblr sexual dominance weed out the bad info from the good. Whenever I would get a new implement, I would also test it out on the bed or a pillow before approaching R with it, to get a good feel of it in My hand and assess the weight and balance.

We started delving into things deeper, figuring out the nooks and cranies of what makes us…well, us. On the 4th of July, we sat on our front porch and watched the fireworks together, holding hands and curled up against one another. After what happened last year when we brought another girl into our bed, and the tragic and truly horrible way in which it ended, we had declared our monogamy with one another.

But we wanted to try again. More on that in another post. So we tried Tinder. We met a couple and it went…south. We never even made it into a sexual situation. We met another couple, and it went the same way. We thought we might be out of luck completely. But living in a small town means we have small options, and this was the only thing we could think to do.

We found a club. We picked out clothing. We made a plan. Tumblr sexual dominance panicked multiple times in our driveway, on the 1. That night is still mostly a blur. One of the most pivitoal moments for me was when I found myself lying on a bed with six different people with their hands, mouths, fingers, tongues, and cocks all over me and inside me and caressing me. It was surreal. It was magic. It felt so right for T and I. We left with new friends, their phone s tucked in my bra.

On the way home, we talked and laughed, high on sexual energy and intimacy. The sex we had the next morning was euphoric. Each time has been a different experience, wilder and more intimate and silly and wonderful than the time before. Apparently T and I are swingers now. It seems like a straightforward organization on paper. Only then may the Dominant focus on his or her own needs and pursue his or her wants and fantasies. In practice, however, nothing in a relationship is ever quite that simple.

Any experienced Dominant will tell you tumblr sexual dominance dominance is a full time job. It takes considerable and often draining work. It is, after all, what we were born to do: lead. But leadership is not a path. We are trailblazers, creating the path as we go so that our submissives may follow. The Dominant way, like a thick, dark wood, is littered with all manor of obstacles. The quicksand of depression. The dead-fall of failure. The brambles of past trauma.

But the gravest danger awaiting the unwary Dominant are the vipers of egotism. Their bite is vicious. I often pepper my writing with these woodland metaphors because I love to hike. Here in the South, this warning is not only a reminder to avoid ankle-turning missteps. Any stone or log could be a hiding place for a rattlesnake. The Dominant path is much the same. If you would avoid the sting of egotism, amidst the devotion and worship or your submissive, you must take preventative measures.

Only by putting each other first can you both be first. If your submissive is worth the label, you will always be their first priority. You must do the same in your own way. It is a careful balance of perspective and attitude. It requires constant reflection, self-analysis and critique, and mindfulness. One of my teachers recommended to all his students that they take time every night, before bed, to review their day, looking for mistakes they made and ways they could improve.

Journaling helps to process these findings and work out strategies for coping with them. A strategy that has always kept me humble is to constantly remind myself that, while my submissive loves me and holds me in high regard, it is not me that she worships, but the ideal that I represent. Tumblr sexual dominance am a symbol of the strength, security, and stability that she needs. I can never earn the level of devotion she shows me. I can never be worthy of her reverence. But I can accept it as a symbol of the fulfillment of her needs and aspirations. By constantly setting my small self aside, I am able to view my dominance, my leadership in her life, as a service to her, rather than a fulfillment of my own ego.

A Dominant must have confidence, yes. But if confidence becomes hubris, there will be disaster for both Dominant and submissive. The ego must always be tempered by humility. A Dominant takes on enormous responsibility. Indeed, the Dominants I know are gracious to one another as a rule. Between the adulation of admirers in their local community or on social media, and the intoxicating praise and devotion of their submissives, even good Dominants fall victim to their own sense of self-importance.

Their egotism rolls over not just any opposition they may face, but, if unchecked, their friends and even their submissive. So a Dominant should, at all times, cultivate a humble attitude. Confidence should stop short of arrogance. Leadership, of tyranny.

Desire, of gluttony. A servant leader le without desire for personal gain, without thirst for power over others. A servant leader teaches, guides, and inspires their subordinates, always leading by example, and with integrity. This way, a good Dominant always places their submissive first. The Dominant seeks only to see their submissive succeed, caring nothing for praise and reward.

No other prize is required, nor is it desired. Without a submissive, even the best Dominant has no outlet for their relationship skills, no means of practicing their craft. I would even argue that greatness in a Dominant is a direct response to greatness in a submissive. In the end, this is about a relationship. We Dominants can indeed take pride in our hard work, our talent and ingenuity, and the achievements of our submissives.

But we must always work to keep that pride in check. Otherwise, rather than hearing the roar of a lion when we speak, our listeners are likely to hear the grating howl of a scavenging jackal. All it takes to get into this lifestyle is a little spark. If all the conditions are right it will quickly burst into a flame!

You have to stoke the fire to keep it going, add more wood. Sometimes we can get lost in experimentation, and have all these things we want to try. It can get overwhelming very fast. Burn off some wood from our fire before we add more. Fire is temperamental. Limits, emotions, good days and bad days. This lifestyle is not for everyone. You have to be diligent, control that fire.

Life will happen, your fire WILL begin to die out from time to time. Add some wood, some fuel, and that one spark. Enjoy your fire. T and I are doing amazing. Anonymous asked: Where and tumblr sexual dominance did you learn how to properly use implements? Swing High, Sweetheart. Things have been shifting around here-in the best possible way. More on that in another post So we tried Tinder. And then we took a deep breath, adjusted our brand-new underwear, and walked in.

Swing low, baby. Ok yum. Beyond Dominance, Part 2: Selflessness. What did I do today to help my submissive progress toward achieving her goals? Did I put forth my best effort in providing my submissive with an environment conducive to her happiness? Did I punish my submissive out of anger? Did I make every effort to show my submissive how much I value her submission? I love his writing. I always learn something new.

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